Stop Chasing Validation: How Self-Trust Creates Real Momentum

A quote often attributed to Michael J. Herbert says, “A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere.”

This isn’t just true for your relationships with others, it’s also true about your relationship with yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting clarity, encouragement, or a roadmap, especially when life feels uncertain or heavy. But there comes a time when you realize: No one else can drive this car for you. And even if they could, you may not like where they take it.

If you keep comparing yourself to others or seeking their approval, you’ll expect yourself to go-go-go even when you may not have a clear destination… But you’ll stall out halfway across the bridge or in the middle of the tunnel. Because while praise and “likes” from others might give you a quick boost, external validation will never fuel you long-term.

I’ve loved personal development my whole life. When I graduated with my psychology degree and started my own business, I started learning more about all the things that school never prepared me for. How to get clients, how to build a website, how to explain what I do in a way others can actually understand, and dozens of other topics. But what took me a few years to realize (and what I still sometimes have to remind myself of), is that no one knows me or my business like I do, and everyone will always have their own two cents to throw in based on their experiences. 

The more you rely on others to get you where you want to go, the more doubt you’ll feel about your own skills. Because there’s always more to learn and always people who are further along than you.

However, when you start taking even the smallest aligned actions, you begin to see what feels good to you. And with each step, your trust in yourself grows.

You also learn how to fuel yourself along the way.

Whether it’s a walk in the sun, a nourishing meal, a deep breath, a playlist that makes you dance, or your own inner pep talk, you become the one who knows what you need best. Because you also realize that no one else is on your journey.

Self-trust isn’t a destination. It’s both the fuel that keeps you going and the road you build yourself. 

This doesn’t mean you have to do everything alone or that others won’t “get you.” You’re still allowed to be held, supported, and celebrated. But you stop depending on others to live your life for you. You stop asking, “How can I be more like them?” and start asking, “What helps me become more of me?”

You become your own power source.

This is what we practice inside Mindful Mavens.

Yes, we cheerlead. Yes, we hype you up when you need a boost.

But the real magic? It’s in helping you build your own sustainable fuel source - rooted in presence, wholeness, and soulful leadership. 

So you’re not just along for the ride… You’re creating the journey of your own dreams.

If you’re feeling called to share your journey with other women who are going in the same heart-led direction, come refill your tank in Mindful Mavens. Let’s ride together.

When you join, you get access to all my courses, a private Telegram community available 24/7, and personalized coaching in the group from me. One of my favorite courses is the Core Values Assessment. It’s a tool you can use as often as you like to help you clarify where you want to go, what you want to see along the way, and know exactly why it’s important to you. 

It’s like having a personalized GPS in your pocket that adjusts with every turn and detour in life, business, and relationships. So no matter what, you love the route you’re on and trust it will take you exactly where you want to go ❤️

The Core Values Assessment is $111 on its own, but you can get it included in the Mindful Mavens community currently at the founders rate of just $44/month! Total no brainer 🤩